Sunday, April 13, 2014

Regan has the worst work job/hobby combination ever.

By day he’s an art director at one of the bigger Cape Town agencies and by night (not every night, but maybe one of two nights a months) he’s a dj. Naturally I’m often agitated because we’re not SPENDING TIME. Isn’t that one of the more bizarre human adages? In order to spend time you need to have it, and who really has time? Time isn’t something we can’t touch or own or see, it moves independently of us, whether we are ready for it to move or not, if anything, time spends us.

When you have a child, time is something you become so much more in tune with, I think because you have so little of it. This is something I’ve been thinking about so much lately and I can only put it down to Sophie turning one and for the first time in my life I have felt time run away from me. A year has passed and I didn’t feel it, not once.

Yesterday my little sister turned 28, Dani is my very best friend, I know it’s a little loser-ish to admit that your BFF is a sibling but I feel lucky because I know that if I never had a single friend and I just had Dani, I’d still lead a life filled with happiness because she’s there. Even though I love her so, I was quite mean, I didn’t call to wish her or visit or really acknowledge her birthday in anyway. I planned this very casual surprise sunset picnic on Camps Bay beach (which Regan missed because he was djing some rooftop thing). Sitting on the beach with a glass of Villiera watching my family together, sharing this moment made my heart so glad, so full. We don’t spend enough of our days just enjoying the time we have together don’t you think?

This weekend I also got to spend a bit of time with my 2 grans. I couldn’t tell you how grateful I am to still have both my maternal and paternal grandmothers and my paternal grandfather. Sophie has great grandparents and she loves them to bits, they’re totally whipped though, she literally can do no wrong, even when she’s in demon mode.  I try to capture as many of these moments so I can share them with Sophie when she’s old enough to understand and appreciate them for the little nuggets of perfection they were.

Whenever I have weekends like this, I am struck by what it means to spend time with people. It’s not just going for a beer or to the movies or out to eat, it’s losing yourself in the moment, enjoying that person being in your space for that time. If we’re honest, it’s quite a rare thing. I really want to get to a place where I spend more meaningful time with the people I love, without there being an occasion or a reason.

Hope you all had a great weekend!

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