DEAR YOU, A LETTER TO MYSELF IN 2018

Tuesday, January 02, 2018



Last year I wrote my first “Dear You” post. I thought it was an awesome opportunity to set goals in a non-traditional way. The idea is a simple one: write a letter to the you you’d like to be in a year from now, mention all the things you’d like to see yourself achieve and congratulate yourself for getting there in one piece.

This is my 2018 edition of “Dear You”….


Dear Nikki,

Boy, we hedged our bets on 2018 didn’t we? Every year we hope that the year coming will be better than the year past. We put things in place, we set goals, we dare to hope and we dare to dream. Isn’t it radical that we place so much importance on 365 days? Well dear heart, you have done a stellar job this year.

A YEAR GEARED TOWARDS FAMILY
This year, one amazing thing happened: you reclaimed Sunday as a family day. You cooked delicious lunches, you switched off the TV, you put down your phone and you made your family a priority. You grew up with Sunday being the center of the week and giving your girls a chance to experience the same magic has been incredible.

SELF-CARE GOALS
Motherhood became so much more meaningful when you stopped allowing it to be your sole identity. Taking time out to look after yourself has - at times - felt like quite a selfish act. But you know that if you aren’t happy you will never be the kind of mother and partner you aspire to be. This year you have put yourself first more than you ever have in the past and it has paid off. As a result, you have learned so much more about who you are, who you want to be, where you’re headed and who you’re taking along for the ride. You started this year feeling terrible about your body and instead of allowing these feelings to morph into feeling terrible about who you are as a person, you sat up, took notice and made some pretty significant changes. You have embraced a healthier diet, you always loved to exercise and it’s so awesome to see you doing it again, you have woken up every single day and loved what you saw in the mirror. That takes a kind of courage that you did not posses a year ago. Well done! 

MOTHERHOOD HAS BEEN INCREDIBLE
As far as life’s journeys go, motherhood is one of the more spectacular ones, right? Its ever-changing and ever-challenging nature has molded you into the kind of woman that roles with the tides. You have managed to parent with grace and patience this year and I am so proud of you. Sophie is starting Grade R next year, Grace is starting preschool and you are guiding them towards these huge milestones with such calm and ease. Putting yourself first this year has made you a stronger mother. When you look at your gorgeous girls, do so knowing that you have done an amazing job raising them!

CREATING A HAPPY LIFE
So often happiness is treated like this long lost destination that all lives are headed towards, but happiness is all around us. This year you realised that happiness is something you create, not something you strive towards. You have applied this to your friendships, your relationship with Regan, your career and your parenting. And you know what? In doing so, you have built a life you love. Take a minute and marinade in that. You life makes you happy, nothing more and nothing less. Not your body, not your job, not your stuff….
YOUR LIFE IS THE SOURCE OF YOUR HAPPINESS.
Do you even know how huge that is? How many people are still figuring that out?

BEING BRAVE ENOUGH TO DO THE RIGHT THING
It’s difficult to admit (even if it’s just to yourself) that there were times where you did not stand up for what you knew to be right. That there were times you ignored what your heart was telling you because it was easier than rocking the boat. This year you have made every effort to BE the authentic and honest person you so often talk about. Flip it’s tough to be direct and speak your mind. It’s terrifying because there is always that little niggle in the back of your head that whispers, “if I say this, people won’t like me”. Ignoring that voice has been a big challenge, but you know what? There is some comfort in knowing that those who have left because you were brave enough to be the truest version of yourself, were not really your friends anyway.

WHEN OCEANS RISE, I WILL REST IN YOUR EMBRACE
Faith has played a huge role in your life this year and as usual, it’s a topic that is difficult to talk about. You have always kept your beliefs in your heart and looking back at the challenges you have overcome, the mistakes you have made and the mountains you have climbed, it’s easy to see God at work in your life. Your continued commitment to living a life rooted in faith has made you a better person this year. You have walked a path of absolute trust in God’s plan for your life and it has given you so much comfort. Isn’t it great to wave goodbye to all the senseless worry and self-doubt in favour complete acceptance of your life’s journey?

BE KIND, BE GRATEFUL, FORGIVE
Every year you aim to be a kinder person than you were the year before. Last year someone you follow on Twitter tweeted: “When you truly value yourself and you love and nurture yourself properly, you don’t have any desire to worry or care about what other people are doing/ saying/ thinking. Peace begets peace”. Reading this was a powerful catalyst in spearing you towards a life of self-acceptance. This self-acceptance is the reason that you are able to end 2018 knowing that just by loving yourself enough, you have become a kinder person, a more grateful person and a more forgiving person (forgiveness for yourself as much as for others). This is pretty powerful.

Nikki

Xxx

Photo by Warren Wong on Unsplash

3 comments

  1. I can't explain how inspired I feel. You express yourself so beautifully! Props for making you-time a priority - I might not be a mom but I know the value of me-time :)

    I wish you all the best for 2018 :)

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    1. Thank you SO much for your comment Veronica! Me time is everything. How can be the best versions of ourselves, or the best at anything really, if we aren't making our happiness a priority? It took FOREVER for me to learn that lesson btw. :))

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  2. This is so beautiful - it reminds me that I should be kind to myself, celebrate the good things :)

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