MAKING TIME FOR WHAT MATTERS MOST

Monday, May 07, 2018 Cape Town, South Africa


Sometimes I feel like spending quality, one on one time with my kids is a pure luxury, that is to say, it does not always feel like the necessity it is. When life gets frantic, it often seems like there are more important things to do than sitting down and building a puzzle or playing a game of snakes and ladders. But there really isn't. Ever.

Sophie is what Dr Sears would describe as a “high needs” child. She is quite emotional, often cries the second things don’t go her way and needs way more attention than her 1 year old sister. For Sophie, one on one time with me is life. I am not even kidding. If I find myself in a whirlwind of adulating and life admin, Sophie is usually there, grabbing my shirt tails, wailing away, reminding me that my primary function is to ensure she has everything she needs to thrive, and 90% the time, this is as simple as just spending time with her.

Tough times call for firm cuddles 


I’m not going to lie, we’re going through a difficult patch. I told you about her terrible visit to the doctor, something that I feel so guilty about because I wasn’t there to protect her from that kind of irresponsible care giving. But it’s more than just that. Things have been off. You know when the universe tips a little, or the moon goes insane and then like, your whole family falls apart and you’re fighting with your partner and kids go demonic and then you’re also like seriously dead broke and you basically just hate life? Well we’re coming off one of those periods now and things are slowly going back to normal, but there are still little niggles. Wilfulness, stubbornness, misery, tantrums etc. You know, the usual.

The one way I know to reach Sophie is to bake with her. It’s kind of like our thing. We bake. Sometimes we bake amazing things and other time it’s barely edible. But the one constant is our happiness. Just the two of us, alone in the kitchen, it’s pure magic.


Barbie to the rescue 

We recently got a really wonderful batch of Barbie goodies from the awesome people at Blue Horizon South Africa and one of the items in our lovely box was a Barbie cooking set and recipe book. As soon as I saw it, my heart melted a little because I knew that this one thing would be a gift for both Sophie & I, and it came at a time when we both really needed it.

This weekend we baked the vanilla cupcakes for Regan’s birthday. This recipe is so straight forward, it’s literally  flop-proof. Unfortunately they were so good that they were gobbled up before I could even take a picture.

I am a huge fan of any toy that translates into quality family time. It’s one of the main reasons we love our blocks and board games. These Barbie cooking sets are so sweet and I know that they will translate into lots of shared hours in the kitchen for Sophie and I.

How do you prioritise one on one time with your little ones? 

What are some of the ways you prioritise spending one on one time with your children? It’s a challenge when you have more than one. I would love to hear some suggestions for other things we can do.

Nikki
Xxx

3 comments

  1. Great idea, the one on one baking with your kid. Sounds sweet

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  2. Connor is my one and only so I’m sure I have it way easier than most. Also he’s a creative spirit so anything to do with his hands has him happy. We’re very much a foodie family. We spend most of our spare time cooking, creating and eating lotsa yumminess. With Juan’s travels we get to taste where he went and experience a little bit of the cultures he experienced when he comes home with a new recipe or pile-in to try. Connor also eats anything (except sweet chocolate - by choice), so our alone time is spent mostly gobbling and mixing. I love it.

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  3. Connor is my one and only so I’m sure I have it way easier than most. Also he’s a creative spirit so anything to do with his hands has him happy. We’re very much a foodie family. We spend most of our spare time cooking, creating and eating lotsa yumminess. With Juan’s travels we get to taste where he went and experience a little bit of the cultures he experienced when he comes home with a new recipe or pile-in to try. Connor also eats anything (except sweet chocolate - by choice), so our alone time is spent mostly gobbling and mixing. I love it.

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