Sunday, December 10, 2017

Gosh this is a narcissistic blog post…

Maybe I should start with some context. I have been going through an incredibly rough bout of writers block. The creativity well has dried up and the fact that I earn a living by writing has only been amplifying my anxiety around not being able to write a decent sentence.

In a –somewhat – desperate last-ditch attempt to inspire myself, I started ready though old blog posts. It reminded me of the passion that once burned so brightly, joke, it still burns quite brightly. Anyway, I put together a little list of my all time favourite blog posts. There are 10 of them. I hope you like them as much I do.

In no particular order:

This is the story of how Regan and I got together. I don’t like this story because I think it’s written incredibly well, I like this story because when I read it, I feel like the words are carrying me back to a time when our love was so new and uncertain and exciting. While I love the comfort of our relationship right now, I do enjoy thinking about those early days when all the kisses felt so incredibly urgent.

Having one child is incredibly special. Preparing for two children is terrifying, but also incredibly special. Getting Sophie ready for her sister’s arrival was one of the most cherished times in motherhood journey.

Ok, if you haven't read this post of mine yet, no is a great time to do so. School holidays give you the chance to teach your little one the behavior that will save your sanity during the school year. For me, a chaotic morning routine was crippling my happiness. Taking steps to change this and put a proper, functional routine in place has made all the difference. These tips work guys! 

I have abandoned my quest for a picture-perfect home. Instead I have started putting more value in the kind of home I create for my children instead of the kind of house. I am embracing experiences over things and giving into what my children want, rather than what I think they want. 

This was such a difficult post to publish. I feel like people clamber up when it comes to talking about faith and it makes things quite awkward. It's so easy to assume that there's no middle ground between hyper evangelical type and staunch atheists, but really there is and it's well populated. 

This year I realised that a lot of the damage I had done to friendships since having children was irreprable. I need friends, but I also owe the friends I had enough respect to admit that I let shit go and that was not cool. This post was as much an open call for new friends as it was an apology to the childless friends I had let down. 

This year was also the year I realised the shit show that social media is. One of the saddest things about it was seeing the way mothers are being slayed for their choices. And hearing that our choice to have children may in fact make us less than, may in fact render us unfeminist. I made a rant about it. 

I labored over writing this post. I faced so many old demons and thoughts that are easier left covered and hidden in the corners of my mind. Sitting down and writing what was in my heart was the biggest, bravest act of self love I have commited. And you will be hearing a lot more about my BOPO journey in the new year. 

This has been a challenging year for Regan and I. We have gone through a lot of change adjusting from 1 to 2 children. We have worked hard and not spent too much working on us. We made a radical decision to put our kids second. It's worked so well for us. 

Dealing with writers block isn't easy, but I have realised that the best way to get back into writing is to get back into reading. The more I read - whether it's my own words, a novel, an article - the more inspired I am to get back to what I love. 

What are some of the ways you cope with writers block or creative slumps? I would love to get some fresh ideas. 



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  1. Sometimes i just write, even if it is not publish worthy. Just writing helps to clear the nonsense!

    1. I'm realising more and more that writing is the best way to overcome it. Like you say, it clears all the cobwebs.


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