Monday, May 21, 2018 Cape Town, South Africa

I didn’t watch the royal wedding. But I did trawl the internet for pictures of the prince and princess on Sunday. Guys, those looks of pure adoration and love make me weak in the knees. Remember when you looked at your guy like that? When you looked at each other and all you could see was the rest of your life, standing right there, in front of your eyes? Remember feeling like you were in a frenzy? You couldn’t control yourself, stolen kisses over the dinner table while your friends threw up in their mouths? Holding hands while driving because the idea of simply not touching each other was absolutely absurd?


I love the phase of my life I am in right now, but sometimes I miss the bright and burning passion of the early days. When Regan and I went on our first date, he looked at me like I was a delicious meal and he hadn’t eaten for a month. Halfway through our date, after about 3 glasses of wine, he leaned over the table and kissed me and then whispered that he couldn’t keep pretending that he wanted to do anything else except kiss me. Even though I have basically been in love with Regan since I was 19, I fell in love with him 1000000 more that night and as our love grows and matures and the passion ebbs a little more than it flows, we constantly pull ourselves back towards that frenzy, because let’s be honest, passion in small bits is toe-curling and wonderful  but hardly sustainable. Especially when you have two little kiddos on your heels.

I put together this little list of date nights because Regan and I always treat date nights like this freaking production. Like it has to be this whole long event with dinner and dressing up and the whole thing. But really all we need is to carve out a few precious hours to remind ourselves how desperately we love each other. Cindy from 3 kids, 2 dogs and 1 old house wrote a really awesome blog post last week about how she’s making more of a big deal about the passion department and it got me thinking, why was I hogging this list of date night ideas, when I could share it with you all?

So here you go, 30 free (or cheap) date ideas that won’t take a bunch of time of cost a bunch of money but will ensure a bunch of love:

1.    Go on a hike.
2.    Explore a neighbourhood.
3.    Plan a game night.
4.    Make it a beach day.
5.    Go roller skating.
6.    Volunteer together.
7.    Have a movie marathon.
8.    Go to expensive open houses even if you’re not looking for a house, it’s nice to dream and even nicer to dream together.
9.    Play a messy game of Twister.
10.    Play truth or dare.
11.    Go for a swim.
12.    Wander art galleries.
13.    Go to an author reading at The Book Lounge (if you’re in Cape Town)
14.    Get lost, on purpose.
15.    Answer this New York Times questionnaire that might make you fall in love.
16.    Feed ducks at your local park.
17.    Play strip chess.
18.    Have a sandcastle-building contest.
19.    Build a blanket fort, take in some snacks and your laptop and watch a movie.
20.    Have an at-home karaoke night. Pick songs for each other instead of yourselves.
21.    Make your own custom cards against humanity deck.
22.    Play snapchat hide-and-seek. This is so fun and easy. Simply hide away, snap pics of clues about your hiding place and send them to your partner.
23.    Have a chopped competition to see who can make the best dish out of whatever you already have in the fridge.
24.    Have a picnic in the park. Leave your phones in the car.
25.    Build an enormous puzzle.
26.    Take a scenic drive.
27.    Go ice skating
28.    Create a cosy night-time picnic in the garden, in a tent or under the stars
29.    Have an epic make-out session on your couch.
30.    Visit the planetarium – So romantic: sitting in the dark, holding hands, looking at the stars.

Once you have kids, your relationship tends to take the back seat. Parenting, life, bills, work and all the other things that tend to come with adulating, usually feel more important than a cuddle or a kiss with your partner. One thing I know is that when your love cup is full, all the worries feel less daunting, the fights lack their nastiness, the tantrums are usually observed with a shared smirk,  and when the lights are out and the kids are down, you get to fall asleep knowing that you are loved and cherished beyond measure. And that, my lovelies, is pretty amazing because love is rare and special.


  1. I absolutely love this post and it came at the right time because those cute little looks and lip bites at the royal wedding also made me feel like I need to make more of an effort in my marriage to keep that spark burning brightly.
    I am going to try a few of these things.

    1. Please do tell me how they go! It is so important and some how always left on the back burner.


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